Never Let Words have Power Over You

I heard from some readers after I wrote about the controversary of using either ‘the n-word’ or the actual word. Some were offended that I dared to say nigger,

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Words can hurt, and when you let them, they fester and become your master. To free yourself from the power of those words over you, take back the power through repeated use, until you have reduced them to mere words on paper.

even when calling it an offensive word. Some agreed that using substitutions for the word creates further barriers.

More than one suggested that using it repeatedly takes the power away from the word as a pejorative, the way homosexuals adopted use of the word queer and made it their own. (Remember, the original meaning of queer was ‘strange,’ or ‘odd,’ and only later did it become a slur.) Continue reading

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Will You Choose Quality or Quantity at the End of Your Life?

It’s been 56 months since I placed an agonizing call to Iowa Hospice about my dad.

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For most of us, how our life ends is just a roll of the dice. A lucky few can intentionally choose quality or quantity for the number of our days.

 

With that call, he, and all of us, his family, entered the last leg of a journey whose outcome had been set two years earlier.

In the time since a spinal stroke, Dad had become a great-grandfather, had seen Mom sell the house they had lived in for 42 years, had given his most prized possessions – his HAM radio gear – to his only grandson-in-law, and had spent roughly 20,000 hours in a hospital bed or wheel chair. Continue reading

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How Joe Got His Life Back

Meet Joe Ostaszewski. You might recognize his name from The Biggest Loser Season 14. By the start of the show, Joe had packed on 150 pounds since his days as a player for the NFL.

 

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Joe realized being morbidly obese was not the person he wanted to be. He lost the weight, gained self-respect and is now pursuing his own dreams.

 

Through The Biggest Loser, he lost the weight that made him morbidly obese and found his passion for living. He also found self-respect in a way he didn’t have, he couldn’t have, when he tipped the scales at 364. Continue reading

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