Manipulation Misery

Years ago I met a man who spent his days manipulating certain people in his life to do for him what he wanted.

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When you don’t trust yourself, you steal from others and give them nothing in return, while holding yourself above responsibility for yourself or accountability to others.

He took from those who loved him all that he could, while giving nothing to them in return. Not surprisingly, his life wasn’t going too well the last time I saw him. He was miserable. Continue reading

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Does Your Relationship Need to be Shattered?

A few weeks ago a friend shared with me a statement: “Thank you for breaking my dishes.”

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Sometimes it is not until something is well and truly broken do we realize there is a problem.

The story goes that a person had an overnight house guest and in the middle of the night, the host awoke to the sound of dishes being violently broken. He made beeline into his kitchen and witnessed his guest standing in the midst of a fine bone china carnage.

The host says to his guest: “Thank you for breaking my dishes!”

I don’t know about you, but I’m absolutely certain that ‘thank you’ wouldn’t be among the first 500 or so words that would spring from my lips.

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The Ultimate Key to Your Happiness

“One of the happiest moments ever is when you find

the courage to let go of what you can’t change.”

~Unknown

What’s your happiness quotient? I’m a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her Happiness Project and her focus on building good habits and a happier life.

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When your happiness feels elusive or distant, look at what you’re holding on to that is blocking you from keeping your happiness close.

Happiness is more than just habits. Happiness begins with some fundamental truths. One of those truths is that to be happy, you must have the courage to let go of what you cannot change.

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