7 Ways to Know if Your Life is Aligned – #5 Is the Hardest

A few weeks ago I wrote about how we allow others to change us over time. We make small changes in our own words and actions in response to their expectations or demands.

We begin to accept as normal certain words or actions from them or ways that they treat us that previously we would have judged

magnifying glass on stand over photo in book of a Tuscan hillside vineyard with home.

From time to time we need to open the book of our life and examine it closely to discover the details a casual observer will never see.

unacceptable. Over time, those incremental changes can end up taking us far away from our true selves. Continue reading

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If I Let You Go, Will You Fly Away?

“If you love someone, set them free.

If they come back they’re yours;

if they don’t they never were.”

~ Richard Bach, American writer

Today is the first day of school here in Charlotte. Depending on where you live, your children may have started classes a few weeks

yellow and black butterfly spread wing on bush. Photo by Brad W. Smith, photographer.

If I let you go, will you fly away?

ago, or you may be eagerly counting down the days until the wonderful first day of class arrives. Continue reading

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When Admitting You’re Wrong is Better than Being Right

I have a very good friend who is a wonderful person, yet he struggles in vain to be able to admit he is wrong, about almost anything, no matter how small or inconsequential. He has not yet learned it is better to admit you’re wrong than to maintain the façade of being right.


brown rocks under penguin, black and white rocks behind it

Others can spot when you try to hide your mistakes by blending them in to the truth.


He will go to great lengths to justify, explain, link or obfuscate what he just said a minute ago to something that is the polar opposite.

You might know someone just like my friend. You might even struggle just like my friend.

You already know that admitting a mistake and then taking responsibility for it is not easy. Continue reading

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