Playing Second Fiddle Is Harder

The late American composer, conductor and pianist Leonard Bernstein once said that playing second fiddle is the most difficult instrument of all. “…to find someone who can play the second fiddle with enthusiasm – that’s a problem; and if we have no second fiddle, we have no harmony.”

Mastering the art of conversation requires both the willingness and the ability to play second fiddle.

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Just the Way You Are

Have you ever tried to change another person in order to make him want what you want, to move her point of view in line with what is acceptable to you?

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You can’t make others change to suit you, and you don’t need to change to suit them. Sometimes the right change to make is to move on.

How has it worked for you? A friend of mine spent years trying to change someone to fit her needs. It was hard for her to come to terms with the idea that he wasn’t going to become someone other than his true self.


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Why Can’t You Say Nigger if You’re White?

How have you gotten to the point of putting a single word on a pedestal as so offensive that you refuse to say it, even when you’re trying to talk about why it is offensive?

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Promoting separate and unequal rules about words and their usage serve to maintain barriers between you rather than to unite you with others.

It’s all right to say nigger if you’re a black person. It’s cause for the charge of committing a hate crime if you speak it while being white.

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