Why You Need to Ask: “Can You Help Me?”

Are you the type of person who asks for help when you need it? Or do you struggle on by yourself, refusing to ask others? When you need help, regardless of the type of help

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Sometimes it is hard to recognize when you need help, to say what it is you cannot do, and to accept others’ help graciously. But when you can, you experience freedom from your need for perfection.

you need or the person you need it from, just say, sincerely and humbly, “Can you help me?”

I promise you’ll get help with whatever it is that you can’t do – whether it’s changing a tire, working with you at the school fundraiser, or finding a store. Continue reading

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Here’s the Best Thing to Say When Someone Dies

Why is it that we have no idea what to say when someone dies? We fall back on platitudes that we know aren’t the right thing to say. Even worse, those platitudes only add

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Living in your discomfort zone is the easiest way to expand your comfort zone. When you become comfortable with others’ grief, it’s easier to know what to say when someone dies.

to the pain felt by those who are grieving.  Your struggle in knowing what to say, and consequently, frequently saying the wrong thing, comes not from your own grief. It comes from your desire to avoid your own feelings of discomfort.

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12 Tips to Stop Stupid Arguments

Nobody likes a stupid argument. A stupid argument, in case you’re wondering, is one where neither of you keep to the topic that you both need or want to discuss and

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Time-outs aren’t just for the kids. Give yourself a break when a conversation starts to turn toxic.

instead rush headlong into the land of name-calling, shouting, talking over each other and other things that prevent what could be a useful conversation that gives you each what you need and makes your relationship stronger.

If you’ve been reading some of my recent posts on Verbal Graffiti, you know that I’ve been talking about the various ways we prevent direct and useful conversation. Today’s post is about how to handle Verbal Graffiti so that it doesn’t cover up the conversation you really mean to have
and want to have.  Continue reading

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