If you’re like most people, you try to avoid conflict. You shouldn’t. Conflict is good for you because it provides the opportunity to tell someone about your boundary and for
When a conflict arises, your first instinct may be to bury it inside, or to erupt in dramatic anger. Neither is good because you won’t have accomplished your real goal of changing the situation.
that person to make a change. Conflict arises when how someone treats you or speaks to you crosses the boundaries of how you want others to treat you or speak to you. A conflict is simply the discovery and acknowledgement that the way the two of you relate to each other currently is not working.
To decide to love someone unconditionally can be an easy choice to make, and it can be an impossibly hard commitment to keep. It’s easy when the other person
No matter how much you love someone, no matter how closely you identify with that person, sometimes you must choose to maintain your boundaries and keep your distance.
is your sweet young child, or your cuddly pet. It’s hard when you cannot agree with many of the things the other person says or does. This is particularly true when the other person repeatedly violates your personal boundaries.
There’s an assumption that females of a certain age must be mothers. That’s an assumption that makes Mother’s Day painful for women who are childless by chance, not
Empty arms ache for a child who will not ever be there.
by choice. Mother’s Day is a very different experience for women who would have liked to include Mother in their life history, but for reasons ranging from medical to relational, have never had children by birth, adoption, foster or marriage, and never will.