We all argue. There are two types of arguments, ones that are productive and ones that are destructive. You’ve probably experienced both kinds in your life, but you may
Harmony is not a constant in relationships, nor is it required for good relationships. You can avoid destructive arguments when you stop resorting to verbal graffiti and simply ask for what you need.
not have understood why some arguments have resolved a situation effectively, and some have left you frustrated and without a resolution. The key is productive arguing. When you know how to argue productively, your relationships are more likely to thrive than to die. You can avoid destructive arguing when you remember one simple rule: no Verbal Graffiti. Continue reading
We have a tradition in our family: when it’s your birthday, you get to be the center of attention for the whole day. You get to make the important decisions by yourself, like what
It’s great to let someone be the center of attention some of the time, but remember to keep a balance in your relationships by grabbing some spotlight for yourself too.
you want to eat, how you spend the day, and when you will open your presents. Rules get bent in your favor. You don’t have to share with anyone. You always get to go first. You are the center of attention and everyone wants you to be happy. For that one day, you sit at the top of your world.
When someone says to you, “Our relationship needs to change,” what do you do next? There are a lot of right responses. However, there is only one response that is
When one person is always giving and the other is always receiving, the imbalance keeps the relationship from being a true partnership.
always wrong: “No, it doesn’t.” Unfortunately, that’s the response most of us give. Not out loud, but in our heads. We can feel threatened and full of fear when the other person asks for what he needs – a change. There is a better way to respond to that kind of statement than to set your mind to maintaining the status quo.