Before You Fire Someone, Read This

If you’ve been a manager for long, you’ve probably had to fire someone. Or, perhaps you are considering or preparing to fire someone now.

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Just because you’re not the focus doesn’t mean you don’t feel anxious about the situation. Gain some perspective by looking at the situation from the other person’s point of view and remember to acknowledge and accept your feelings and take care of your needs.

If so, you may well be experiencing some anxiety about it, the way a couple of people I spoke with recently were.

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What Does it Mean to Be True?

What does it mean to be true? It means that you uphold yourself and put your needs first so that you’re able to meet the needs of those you love or are responsible to.

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You love yourself fully when you create a vision for your life and take responsibility for realizing it. Put yourself on the path to reach your dreams.

It means you know your values and are guided by them in all that you do. It also means that you do not do things just to please others when those things violate your values or your boundaries. Sometimes it means you let others be responsible for their feelings and actions. You hold yourself responsible for your own feelings and actions.

Being true is the third component of the Live HOT way of life and the guiding principles to loving yourself.

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Why You Should Always be Your Priority

We all talk about priorities as though we can have many things that are most important. There’s only one thing

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When you make yourself your priority, you put more time and effort into taking care of your needs than the needs of your employer or even your family.

that can be first in your life. You might fool yourself into thinking that you can put both your job and your family first, but it’s impossible. Priority means, ‘the one thing that is most important.’ It’s both mathematically impossible and grammatically incorrect to claim to have more than one priority.

So, given that you can have only one priority, I suggest that neither your job nor your family should be first. You should be first. You should always be your priority. Continue reading

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